Just a few random thoughts:
- Whenever I had a girlfriend, I couldn't wait to see her... wanted to be with her at all times or at least as much as possible.
- Can't imagine having serious feelings for a woman and not being "intimate" for 5 years.
- Do you suspect you may be the "girl on the side" to him and that he has others as well?
- Have you asked him what "unevenly yolked" means to a JW? If not, ask him to
explain the term and where you fit into the picture and what this will
mean for your relationship, long term.
- How trustworthy is he if he can spend 5 years hiding the fact that he is breaking one of the major "JW tenants" (see above)
- Not sure why you refer to yourself as a "Girl" and to him as a"Man" is the use of those phrases telling as to your age differences and or equality in this relationship? If so I see more red flags.
Anyway, there are lots of variables to this story that I don't know but it sounds like your instincts are on high alert over this and as far as I can tell, they should be. It seems like you deserve better treatment than what you've been getting. I'm glad you came here to ask your questions....you deserve to be someone's number one....rather than strung along in the shadows by a guy who's in the grips of a weird religion.